This week, my 13-year-old son, in classic teenage fashion, managed to break one of his teeth while goofing around at school. With a mix of exasperation and concern, we set off for an emergency dentist appointment. As is often the case, we had never met this particular dentist before, and I quickly discovered that he embodied the old-school approach to dentistry.
Upon our arrival, he greeted us with a stern expression, devoid of any warmth or welcoming chatter. Instead, he simply commanded my son, “Sit down. Lie back.” And just like that, the procedure began. There was no attempt to explain what he was doing or to ease the tension in the room. It felt as though we had been transported back in time to my own childhood—a stark reminder of the icy interactions I once experienced with medical professionals.
I realized that I had forgotten what it was like to be treated in such a clinical manner. In those days, the relationship between patients and doctors was decidedly one-sided: you followed orders without question. The doctors were seen as the authority figures, and you were merely a person with a problem. They would dictate the course of action, prescribe treatments as they saw fit, and send you on your way, often leaving you with a dull sense of gratitude and a feeling of inferiority.
Over time, however, a significant shift occurred in the medical community’s approach to patient care. The idea that patients should be informed about their conditions and involved in their treatment plans began to gain traction. This revolutionary change was driven by the growing number of patients who were tired of feeling treated like “insensible turds” and sought a more respectful interaction with their healthcare providers.
Today, it is common for patients to be consulted during their consultations. My son, being a teenager, has grown up in an era where doctors are not only friendly but also engage in meaningful discussions with their patients. They ensure that he understands what is happening, why it’s happening, and how best to address his concerns.
Yet, in that sterile dentist’s office, I found myself grappling with the stark contrast of the old ways. I had almost forgotten how unsettling it can be to witness a loved one become increasingly tense in a room filled with ominous-looking dental instruments, all without any form of explanation. When I spotted the large metal syringe heading in my son’s direction, I snapped out of my disbelief-induced paralysis and quickly informed him that the dentist was about to administer an injection to numb him for… whatever was to come next.
Reflections on Change
Here’s the crux of the matter: I often express frustration about the growing “touchy-feeliness” permeating our society. I find myself irritated by the increasing sensitivity to minor offenses, the prevalence of trigger warnings, and the proliferation of emotional support animals. The time and resources spent on legal disputes over hurt feelings rather than addressing real issues can be infuriating. It sometimes feels as if we are all walking on eggshells, afraid to express our thoughts for fear of backlash.
As I get closer to uttering the phrase, “The world’s gone mad!” and joining the ranks of the anti-woke brigade, the experience with the dentist gave me pause. It reminded me that nostalgia can warp our memories, leading us to idealize the past. The traditional way of interacting with medical professionals was not as benign as I had recalled. Movements toward more compassionate care arose for valid reasons, and it is likely that many of the old customs we cling to were not as beneficial as we remember.
While it is true that in some cases, the pendulum of change has swung too far, it’s important to recognize that overcorrection is often a part of the process. I, along with my fellow members of the “World’s Gone Mad!” club, should strive to remember this. Ultimately, it’s not about how far the pendulum swings; it’s about where it comes to rest. The evolution of patient care and social norms may not always be perfect, but they often lead to a more humane and understanding approach to life.
