Understanding the True Essence of Life’s Bucket List
Recently, I had a revelation while reflecting on the words of George Clooney during an interview. He articulated an epiphany he experienced upon reaching the milestone of 60 years. Despite still being capable of many activities he enjoyed at 30, he recognized the inevitability that, by the time he reaches 90, he would no longer possess the vitality of his 60-year-old self. Consequently, he expressed to his wife the importance of focusing their next 25 years on “making sure that we’re jamming in everything we can.” However, dear George, I must respectfully disagree.
This mindset aligns closely with the infamous concept of the bucket list, a notion that gained widespread traction after the 2007 film featuring Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman. In this heartwarming buddy comedy, two terminally ill friends escape their hospital confines to pursue a list of dreams before they “kick the bucket.” This portrayal quickly morphed into a societal expectation that everyone should curate their own bucket list—not merely in light of dire health news but as a guiding principle throughout life.
As a result, it inadvertently provided a platform for some individuals to showcase their more extravagant aspirations, often leading to a rather grotesque display of ambition. People began to transform ordinary desires, such as visiting Rome and indulging in authentic pasta carbonara or going on a safari to see monkeys, into grand goals that defined their identities. It was as if the uniqueness of their bucket list entries elevated their status, compelling them to outdo one another with increasingly extravagant and eccentric ambitions.
- Forget about simple escapades to Rome or climbing Ben Nevis; these adventurers aimed for breathtaking experiences like traversing the awe-inspiring Plitvice Lakes National Park in Croatia.
- They would even dare to use phrases like “breathtaking” and “in the heart of” to enhance their narratives before embarking on their journeys.
The influence of this film and humanity’s proclivity for performative behavior has led to absurd declarations like “I want to sleep in an ice hotel!” being considered profound, intriguing, or even commendable. Consequently, an entire industry emerged to cater to these whims. Now, if one desires, they can participate in a traditional Chinese tea ceremony while soaring over the Serengeti in a hot air balloon or even walk on the wings of a plane while gazing at the Northern Lights. The possibilities seem endless, limited only by the imagination.
Yet, amidst this whirlwind of aspirations, we must recognize that the concept of a genuine bucket list is often one of abstaining—of saying no rather than seeking more. The essence of true desire tends to diminish with age, shifting our focus from seeking new experiences to cherishing the simplicity of what we already have. What truly brings joy is the realization that no one will ever pressure me to try drugs again—something I never engaged in, but the liberation from such expectations is delightful.
Moreover, I have discovered the perfect sofa, eliminating the need for endless shopping for that elusive item that rarely meets expectations. I’ve also cultivated a circle of friends with whom I share genuine connections, freeing myself from the obligation of forging new friendships. What could be more liberating and fulfilling?
In a world filled with manufactured ambitions, it becomes increasingly easy to overlook the few authentic desires we possess. While indulging in a substantial portion of pasta carbonara might genuinely be one of them, we must ponder whether a trip to Rome would significantly enhance that experience. Take a moment to reflect on this.
As desires naturally fade over time, the urge to simulate them often dissipates even more. Embracing the decision to discard performative nonsense is a step in the right direction. You don’t need to hike to Machu Picchu; you never desired to. And that’s perfectly acceptable. You might find that you have no interest in attending another dance party, and that’s entirely your choice.
Instead of filling your bucket list with lofty goals, consider crafting a list of activities you have no intention of repeating. You will effortlessly check every box, ensuring a sense of fulfillment as you approach the end of your journey. In the end, you can look back and truly feel happy ever after.
